I have often made the mistake of assuming. Life has taught me my assumptions are often flawed. I hope I am getting better as I get older.
This was brought into my mind at Church last Sunday when the Minister was asking us not to be judgmental about people who are less fortunate than us – for example homeless people and those sleeping rough. In fact the Minister used a wonderful expression;
‘Whether a man sleeps on a pavement or in a palace they are both sons of God and equal in his eyes.’
Assumptions and judgments were best brought home to me many years ago when a friend told me this true story.
A man in his early thirties was on a train journey with two young children of about 5 and 6 years of age who were running around. They were out of control; they were loud; and generally making a nuisance of themselves, much to the annoyance of the other passengers. There was a tense atmosphere but no one said anything until one man got so angry that he felt he just had to say something to the man who seemd to be oblivious to what was going on and 'miles away' mentally. He told the man he was not a responsible parent; he told him that he should control the children; they were very annoying and making the journey a misery for everyone. It was very inconsiderate not to control them.
The man looked at the person and apologised with tears in his eyes saying "Yes you are quite right I am so sorry – it is just that we are traveling back home from the funeral of my wife – their mother, and I guess they are finding it all very difficult at the moment.”
Ouch!!! - Like all of us - the person who complained wished a hole would appear so that he could just fall in!
Never assume – it will make an ASS out of U and ME